From ‘mood hoovers’ to ‘energy vampires’ - here’s why negative friends are good for you | Emma Beddington

<p>Jamie Oliver says he’s only hanging out with ‘lovely people’ in his 50s. But sometimes we all need an Eeyore around </p><p>I’m hungry for wisdom from others on dealing with midlife challenges, such as existential reckonings, fading relevance, developing a neck like a Salvador Dalí clock and a newfound passion for A Place in the Sun (just me? I can’t get enough of retirees’ apartment-complex conundrums). Most recently, I discovered Jamie Oliver’s words on turning 50 in an interview with <a href="https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/uk/lifestyle/a69115510/jamie-oliver-dyslexia/">Good Housekeeping</a>: “I think if you’re going to have a good go at the second half of your life, you have to edit away all the noise,” he said. “Just be with lovely people. I’m avoiding negative people – ‘mood hoovers’ – and getting better at saying no.”</p><p>My first thought was: isn’t there a tension between “avoiding negative people” and “getting better at saying no”? Doesn’t that mean he has to avoid <em>himself</em>? I know – it’s exactly the kind of thing a mood hoover would say, and that’s because I am one. Although in our community we actually prefer the expression “energy vampire”. Please avoid “wet blanket” or “fun sponge” too – all this comparing us to utilitarian household items is offensive; we have feelings (albeit mainly negative ones). I’ll accept “downbeat cashmere throw”, at a pinch.</p> <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/commentisfree/2025/oct/27/mood-hoovers-to-energy-vampires-heres-why-negative-friends-are-good-for-you">Continue reading...</a>