Is The 'F*ck First' Rule Key To More Intimate Date Nights?

<div><img src="https://img.huffingtonpost.com/asset/68e51859140000f4125c710c.jpeg?ops=scalefit_630_noupscale" alt="Woman's silhouette" data-caption="Woman's silhouette" data-credit-link-back="" data-credit="Maru Lombardo via unsplash" />Woman's silhouette</div><div class="content-list-component text"><p>We’ve written before at HuffPost UK about <a href="https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/how-often-should-i-have-sex-couple_uk_67bd933be4b039cc8729f92f">how much sex is considered “normal”</a> for couples, as well as when <a href="https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/habit-stacking-sex_uk_683db54ae4b08b77a460db2a">“scheduling” the act</a> might be beneficial for you. </p><p>But sex therapist Vanessa Marin shared another logistical trick <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander/video/7455385031079431455" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">on her TikTok</a> page: she suggested we “use the fuck first rule to increase the likelihood of intimacy” on a date night. </p><p>The term, first coined by <a href="https://www.gq.com/story/valentines-day-sex-before-dinner-dan-savage" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Dan Savage in his advice column</a>, is, well, exactly what it sounds like. </p><p>“The whole idea is to have sex before you go out on date night,” Marin said. “Because let’s be honest – once you start eating, drinking, staying up late, it’s really hard to get excited about having sex.” </p><p>But is that a good idea? I asked sex and relationship therapist and author at <a role="link" href="https://passionerad.se/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" data-vars-item-name="Passionerad" data-vars-item-type="