Sorry, But There's No Such Thing As A Toolkit For Heartbreak

<div><img src="https://img.huffingtonpost.com/asset/67865b46160000150070b1ac.jpg?ops=scalefit_630_noupscale" alt="" data-caption="" data-credit-link-back="" data-credit="Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@kellysikkema?utm_content=creditCopyText&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=unsplash">Kelly Sikkema</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/broken-heart-hanging-on-wire-E8H76nY1v6Q?utm_content=creditCopyText&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=unsplash">Unsplash</a>" /></div><div class="content-list-component text"><p><em>How long does it take to get over a breakup?</em></p><p><em>Recommend me a heartbreak playlist?</em></p><p><em>What’s the best food to eat when you have a broken heart?</em></p><p>When my last relationship ended, I absolutely bombarded Google – and my longsuffering friends – with questions like this. My life had never felt so turbulent – in the space of an evening I not only had nowhere to live but also had no idea what the coming weeks, months, years – hey, the rest of my life – were going to look like.   </p><p>If that sounds overdramatic, it’s meant to.</p><p>Believe me, I was astonished – and perhaps a little embarrassed – at how in-pieces I was. I knew that breakups happened to everyone. I knew that by most standards, mine was a decent one – reasonably mutual, no terrible behaviour on either side, definitely the right thing. And I knew – I promise I knew – that a relationship was only one part of a full and interesting and joyful life. Yet I genuinely felt like I cannot and will not cope with how awful this is.</p><p>Enter the very specific questions.</p><p>It’s interesting, looking back, how much I was hoping I could gamify my way out of heartbreak. That if I followed the right