When Everyone Knows That Everyone Knows by Steven Pinker review – communication breakdown

<p>Unwritten rules, social contracts, shared logic – and what happens when they fall apart</p><p>Knots, RD Laing’s 1970 book, was a collection of short dialogues illustrating the tangle of projection and misreading that characterises human encounters. The radical psychiatrist made clear the influence of unacknowledged baggage, the conscious or unconscious laying of traps for the other speaker, and helped us see more clearly the pitfalls of even our most routine conversations. In an era like ours, where global relations can contain as much psychodrama as private ones, Laing’s Zen-like exchanges have more than just individual pertinence.</p><p>The contrast between Laing’s absurdist, tragicomic sensibility and Steven Pinker’s crisp reasonableness is obvious. But there is more common ground than we might at first think. Pinker illustrates his arguments with piquant little dialogues, some of them worthy of Laing (“You hang up first”. “No, you hang up first.” “Okay.” “She hung up on me!”); this book is as lively an exposition of cognitive science as you are likely to find.</p> <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/books/2025/sep/29/when-everyone-knows-that-everyone-knows-by-steven-pinker-review-communication-breakdown">Continue reading...</a>